Hey sweets!
Perhaps this is thehundredth newsletter you'll be reading this year or this is your first - really! :(
Anyways, I'm here from the Mars - don't tell me you are still waiting for Elon Musk's mission. I know you want me to tell you about my experiences in Mars, come off it! You can book with me for my next flight and let's enjoy the enjoyment. Think about it.
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So here I am just like you over there.
When you talk about abuse what do you think?
I know your mind went straight to sexual abuse but do you know that there is a big threat to the African generation of those who are looking forward to being a parent in years’ time - including me, and that is psychological abuse.
According to Hskdirljdkshwj evaluation, the case of psychological abuse has caused more youths to be very eccentric in their daily dealings.
Let's take a look at this…
I grew up not knowing my father and my mom got married to someone else. I lived with my grandparents for a very long while and they made me feel loved.
But, something was not adding up. At school, some of my mates call me Bastard - you know… I try to move on and pretend it's nothing, trust me, it’s something.
I grew up not knowing my father and my mom got married to someone else. I lived with my grandparents for a very long while and they made me feel loved.
But, something was not adding up. At school, some of my mates call me Bastard - you know… I try to move on and pretend it's nothing, trust me, it’s something.
Alongside other insults from relatives, I find it hard to put up to people. It affected my self-esteem and most times I am just quiet – not that I like being quiet but because I believe that my type is not meant to talk in society. Alongside other insults from relatives, I find it hard to put up to people. It affected my self-esteem and most times I am just quiet – not that I like being quiet but because I believe that my type is not meant to talk in society.
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Phew! That's so hard.
Psychological abuse drives deeper into self-consciousness and I have my share in this. 70% of this comes from our parents, who knowingly or unknowingly in the name of "scolding" dispense this into our mind and we carry it throughout our days.
The remaining 30% comes from the outsiders; talk of your mates, friends etc.
I was listening to a podcast and I heard a guy-man (jeez! that took forever for me to decide) who narrated his experiences on how his friends make jest of him because he had chest-full (boobs) although he hit the gym later on the stigmatization of the insults still haunts him to the extent that he doesn’t socialize or even put off his cloth (I mean you have six-packs now but you're even afraid to show the girl)
This is to show the impact of psychological abuse on individuals.
But in all this, you can still be better.
Currently in Nigeria, a 12-minute speech by a man who we stylishly regard as the president has instilled a threat which has also led to psychological abuse in the minds of the youth after standing up to protest FOR THEIR RIGHT.
Hey, look at me - it's not over yet.
Yes, abuse of any kind does not leave the mind so early but you can be good. A wise man once said "what you bottle up is what you puff out" (yea, that wise man is meeeee)
From the badass wise saying, the first step you should note is to free yourself from that shackles. From psychological abuse, you develop Low self-esteem which is very critical. But you can still get better by;
Opening up to someone - this is very important. In fact, as I dey like this, I still have someone I always run to. When you open up about your abuse, you feel a relief of burden in one way or the other - trust me.
Face the fear - FTF. Yo! Put that down! Face the fear.
It is fear that drives you into low self-esteem- The fear that you don't belong here, there or anywhere, the fear that you're not going to do it well because someone will always call you a failure.
Face the fear, try it out. You may fall but the satisfaction that you tried it out will be there to bring you up.
Get engaged - Hey! Don't scream yet, no one is talking about marriage. Lool. RELAX, OKAY?
Getting engaged with something like work, books (I love books), movies, sport, people…. Can make you the better version you want.
For instance, if you think your body is not up to your expectations, you can get engaged with the gym and be dedicated to achieving your desire.
These three steps are very essential in healing from psychological abuse. In other spheres, the abuse you've gone through can make you angry with everyone including yourself.
You just realized that little thing trips you off, you get angry easily. It's not your fault too, this is as a result of what you grew up hearing about yourself and to be candid, anger does not die quickly.
It takes an Everest Mountain of appeal to get calmed down.
But whenever this feeling surges, do not lash out on the innocent people around you or else you abuse someone else psychologically.
Rather, go to a quiet place. This works for me every time too.
Then, breathe in and out (common handle your breath with care!) and try to recall any happy memory (remember that day you wet the bed. hahahahahahahahahahaha. And that day you thought your offence is the biggest thing in this life)
and if that doesn't work open YouTube and search for "Cat and Dog videos." Yeah, that should help.
Psychological abuse is a very common thing most people are battling with, which is why you have to be careful with your words and actions – they speak volume.
Instead, make it a daily goal to put a smile on someone's face every day
Selah.
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(Can you believe that shit!)
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